Friday, May 21, 2010
Look Outside the Box
So I got an email from a guy, and he said, beautiful princess, could I take you to dinner. I had received an earlier email from this guy, maybe a few weeks ago, but I had too many Bachelors on the go, and I just ignored it. But the thought of a man actually spending money on me intrigued me and after all the losers I've experienced, why not give a gentleman a chance, right? So I answered his email with a yes and anytime. He emailed me back, how about tomorrow at 6, what kind of food do you like? So I told him I was a vegetarian, and I didn't have a restaurant preference. So he offed this high-end restaurant, and I quickly agreed to meet him there. It was only a few blocks from my home, but I drove myself because it was raining. I arrived promptly at 6 and I noticed him pacing in front of the restaurant, while on his cell. I could see that he was shorter than he wrote on his profile (he was more like 5'5" then 5'7") but I promised myself to be totally open-minded and give this one a chance. He looked like his picture and kissed me European style upon greeting me. He held the door for me (bonus points) and then asked if I wanted to eat in the restaurant or lounge. We chose the restaurant. He ordered calamari and mussels and clams for appetizers (yikes, that's a meal for me) and he insisted that I order a main course. I gladly chose the lobster tail dinner (might as well see how deep his pockets were, right?). This is not something I usually do but I was curious to see how authentic this guy was. He was a total gentleman and the most generous and caring guy I have ever dated. We had a nice conversation and we even had dessert and specialty coffees (ka-ching). I did bring money just in case I got the shock of going dutch, but no way. This man knew the chef and stopped to talk to him and then as we were walking out the door, he said to me, it's too early for us to part so I'm kidnapping you. So we jumped into his Mercedes SUV (triple bonus points), and he drove me to this quaint middle eastern bakery and after spending ($43.00) dollars on treats, he handed me a big box of goodies and told me to bring them home to my daughter. I told him my daughter wouldn't eat many, nor would I, but he said just bring them into work (which is exactly what I did). He then gave me a tour of his mosque (yes, he's Muslim), his market, and we even drove by his home and then back to the restaurant. He dropped me at my car and gave me a polite peck on the lips and told me I had beautiful eyes and kissed me on the bridge of my nose. As I drove home, I couldn't help but wonder if this is how a true gentleman treats a lady. This man was a true gem, albeit short, but his heart oozed love and respect and kindness and goodness. Maybe I should stop looking for Mr. Gorsight (gorgeous sight) and stick with a GOOD man instead. What a phenomenon! A man who respects you, treats you like a Queen, and loves life. Did the universe send this man my way? Will I be smart enough to go against the grain and give him a chance? This man in one evening showed me all the characteristics I was searching for in a man. Yes, I know, maybe he was a fraud, but I don't think this man had one negative thought in his mind. As I thought about what it felt like to be treated nicely, I called him and left him my phone number. The least I could do after a fabulous evening. He mentioned that he would love to take me to a Seafood Buffet if I was available on Sat. I said, I'd love to, and he said he'd give me a call tomorrow. Tomorrow is today (Friday) and when I didn't hear from him, I was a little taken aback. So I called him (to make sure he got my message) and he said he was going to call me and maybe we could go for a coffee tonight (don't say it, I know 2 dates in a row is a bit much, but I can't say no to this man). So we went for tea, and I had a chance to get a good look at him in better light. Is this a man I could grow to like? Could I get beyond the height and appearance? Almost as if he read my mind, he said, it doesn't matter what you're wearing, if your heart is beautiful, it doesn't need any trimmings. That's the problem with this one - he speaks from his heart and says all the right things. So date #3 is tomorrow and he's meeting my mom. I'll keep you posted!